Where to Begin? Goals.

So after yesterday's rambling post, I'd like to make a few concrete goals to get me going.  But what?

After some considerable reflection (I typed that line yesterday for Pete's sake lol!), I've decided to divide it into categories.  There are many things in many areas I can work on, but these are the ones I think are most important right now:

As a wife I'd like to show more respect to and appreciation for my husband.  I want to focus on the things he does do, not the things he doesn't.  And I don't want to forget to appreciate him for who he is, not just what he does. I think I get to wrapped up in my life, and how I need help and support.  What about him?  He deals with stresses and disappointments and frustrations all day too.  If I feel like I need help and support, of course he will too.  I've been trying to focus on this aspect of our relationship in the  last few weeks already and I've noticed that the aura around us is much more positive already.

As a homemaker, I want to spend less time on the computer.  I get into these binges where I'm consumed with learning more about a certain topic that has caught my attention.  That wouldn't be too bad if it were just one topic every now and then, but it seems like one interesting topic leads to another, then another.  And I end up spending every spare second I can online, spare seconds I could be using to pay more attention to my home and family.  I want to relegate time spent on the computer to an hour early in the morning just after the kids are in bed and an hour in the evening (but only after I've completed my work-related tasks on the computer).   I have a daily routine that I have typed out and when I use them I feel SO on top of my house.  But often I let other diversions get in the way - ones that I don't think are more important - and the lists go to the way side.  I will revamp my lists in the near future to reflect what works best for me and the little ones and post them, if you'd like, then get back on track.

As a mother, I'm trying to be mindful of my patience.  I CAN control my temper.  I just need to be more aware of it.  I need to remember to question if it's really important.  If my expectations are appropriate for the child, for the time of day (when we're hungry or tired), for life in general.  I want to spend time with them, making memories, not just cleaning up after them.  Of course I need to keep up with housework, but that doesn't mean it's always the number one priority!

And as a woman, I'd like to learn more about modesty. I don't think it's necessary to go back to Little House on the Prairie, nor am I prepared to order a special 'swimming dress', but I want to investigate how I feel about wearing skirts and dresses.  Tank tops?  Shorts?  Necklines?  I go back and forth on all these issues, usually while I'm folding my clean clothes, or getting dressed in the morning.  "If I decided wearing tank tops wasn't okay, I couldn't wear this,"  or "If I could afford it, I would buy more skirts, but that's not in the budget right now, what to do?".  I think I'm already fairly modest compared to many, so this may be less important than I think.  I'd like to explore this more, probably mostly online and figure out what modesty means to me and why I think it's important.

So with those four goals in mind, I'm going to get about my day, and my life.  I think these are very attainable goals, and I will work on them diligently and reflect on them in the beginning of August.  I'll get back to you then!